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from ashy to ______

Posted in Uncategorized on March 2, 2017 by loveinotherplaces

This whole season from mid February to mid April is love to me. I often think in lists. 

  • Black history – half is better than none at all
  • Carnival – who don’t like carnival? Ok some don’t but … who are they again?
  • LENT – the chance to get closer to God, to change on the inside. to reflect on the flesh vs. the spirit. I ain’t telling you what I’m giving up. I am also adding something. That’s between me and God this year. In years past I have blogged about it but all you need to know is it’s something I will struggle to leave alone. I love this time to sacrifice and cleanse. I even was blessed to do ash this year. What I heard in my meditation this morning is this: the call of the flesh is always temporary. For my life, this means that if I wait it out, my flesh will calm down, become distracted by something else, and lose intensity. The problem is that the flesh pulls so strongly I don’t feel it will ever subside so I answer the call without even trying to wait it out. The flesh does not always need to be resisted … but lent is a time to explore whether your flesh controls you or if you can master it.  It is a time to go without an earthly thing in order to see how God will fill you with an invisible thing. It is to wander in a wilderness. For 40 days and 40 nights. 
  • St. Patrick’s Day – uh why not, another chance to celebrate white immigrants with whiskey 
  • Madness – the way I love college basketball is disgusting 
  • The resurrection – some call it Easter, but whatever you call it … I love it  

I just want to say thank you to Jesus for being the original lover of all things and the first on earth to see love in all places. 


the season of no delay

Posted in Uncategorized on February 24, 2017 by loveinotherplaces

Been reading this daily book of praise that I got at church. Finished a book of 31 days of prayer which I also loved.  But I can feel the praise taking my spiritual journey to the next level. The part I highlighted in pen was love for me today. Recently been struggling with frustration, impatience, and anger with God for certain trials that I’ve been facing for years. I literally felt all my old impurities stirring within me yesterday. I could have ended up in jail … But this is my season of no delay. I’m getting the hell out of my own way. I want to mature in the spirit and draw all my blessings to my front door. Therefore, I am trying my best not to complain, not even in my head. And when things don’t go my way … I am simply trying to say, thank you. Daily, I’m working to put my pissiness aside and to submit to his plan and his way. Shit is hard. But I’m learning to turn my pain into spiritual power. And I’ve been so hardheaded all my life that I know in my bones I’ve been delaying my own spiritual maturity which in turn delays my miracles. That through my own actions I’ve been sent the same trials multiple times. It’s time for me now to embrace my trials and put all my fear and all my hurt in God’s hands. In this season, I am working on letting God be God. All I really want is .. what God wants for me. And I can’t wait to put my hands on his ass. Whoever and whenever that is. 

not to be confused with truffle butter 

Posted in food, nicki minaj, Truffles, Uncategorized on February 22, 2017 by loveinotherplaces

Finally tried this … I don’t even really like truffles but the foodie in me had to know. And yes, it was good. I’ll never eat it again cuz I don’t like truffle flavor that much but for those of you with different palates than mine, have at it. Truffles are still one of the most expensive food items on the global market. Best thing I ever had that had anything to do with this fungi was an aged steak in a Boston restaurant – they said chef had rubbed it in truffle oil before cooking it. Best steak ever. Didn’t taste a drop of truffle. Either way, it’s love. When there’s no one to trace your spine with their finger or to press your lips on, sink your teeth into something else. And if there is a someone, enhance your love with good food. 

at least 45 minutes

Posted in books, Lips, love, paulo coehlo, sex, Uncategorized on February 8, 2017 by loveinotherplaces

as i re-read paulo coelho’s 11 minutes the words remind me why i love this book.  love – Eleven Minutes: A Novel (P.S.) by [Coelho, Paulo]like romantic love – has been on my mind a lot recently, as in the past year. which is new for me.  i spent over a decade just putting that kind of love in the corner.  God been tenderizing the meat of my heart. i started having baby fever 3 years ago.  but i ain’t pressed pressed.  i just know it’s in me and i don’t know why.   so i requested this book at the library 3 weeks ago.  something inside me called out for it.  it holds some of my secret dreams. it holds some of my understanding of love, sex, and desire. and myself.  in reading this again, i realize why God has placed these new urges on my heart. the answer is in the second quote. i’m back in love with imagining love. like when i was a child.  and a teenager.  and when i was 20.

‘suddenly, there was the opportunity she had been so eagerly awaiting, but which she had hoped would never come!’ p.27

‘i need to write about love. i need to think and think and write and write about love – otherwise, my soul won’t survive.’ p. 74

‘in love, no one can harm anyone else; we are each of us responsible for our own feelings and cannot blame someone else for what we feel.’ p.90









lamentations 3

Posted in bible, God, hope, Hunger Games, Uncategorized on February 7, 2017 by loveinotherplaces

Image result for old king james biblemy elder sister church friend (who calls me her play daughter which makes me warm all over) sent me a word last week.  the whole chapter spoke to my heart, seduced me, and made love in me.  just wanted to share that love.  and to share some of the verses that particularly resonate with me:


24 The Lord is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him.

25 The Lord is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him.

26 It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the Lord.

27 It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth.

28 He sitteth alone and keepeth silence, because he hath borne it upon him.

– lamentations 3:24-28



not on my Jesus

Posted in belief, career, chaos, depression, faith, Uncategorized on February 3, 2017 by loveinotherplaces

one of my greatest hopes for this blog is that it saves days and lives.  if i can help a person on the brink of giving up then my posts have served their purpose.  i have wanted to give up so many times in my life and i can only share what keeps me going.

especially if you struggle with depression, sometimes all we can see is what we lack.  what we do not have.  what went wrong.  where we are empty.

if you are on a spiritual path, the spirit must be fed or it will crash.  i said all this to say that there have been many seasons in my life when all i can listen to is gospel music.  i run it out.  i play it in my car everywhere i go.  i play it at work ALL DAY.  and this is even after i have prayed and meditated both day and night.  i encourage those who are in a struggle to find whatever feeds your spirit.

i am personally in another gospel season.  it keeps me. focused on what i really want.  focused on God’s highest truth and his light.  it keeps me alive.  it keeps me breathing.  it keeps me putting one foot in front the other. as i was listening to this particular song (pasted below) this morning, i started drafting this post in my head.  don’t give up on my Jesus.

i know it’s hard.  i know you’ve been waiting.  i know you can’t see the blessings all around or those that are coming.  i know life is hard.  i know you don’t want to get out of bed.  i know you are tired. i know that the flesh is calling you .. to drink, to smoke, to sex, to lash out … i know this because i feel all these things myself.

i’m at the point where i’m so tired. so, so tired. my spirit so fatigued. so exhausted that i am resting in God’s word and his promise. and i am standing in expectation.  i don’t have the energy to count all the dollars and cents.  i can’t think my way through all of my own problems. and i have done everything i can. at this point, all i can do is play this gospel along the way.

what’s your gospel? what locks on to your insides and lifts you up like a harness?  what connects you to the ultimate truth?  the truth that you are beautiful. that you are loved, that you are love.  you are the other places you’ve been crying out for.

my Jesus still works even when you can’t no more.  rest in him.








stay fresh glue 

Posted in Uncategorized on December 25, 2016 by loveinotherplaces

here’s a gift. for all those who like to keep their nails done but can’t afford regular manicures. this is not them lee press on nails from back in the olden days. these joints actually work. and there’s multiple sizes etc etc. i can scrub my hair or do dishes, and they stay on. and they $5. happy Kwanzaa. give your nails and bank account some love. yes, that is my hand. 

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